For all the smutty relationships, slash or otherwise, that I have played— the couple that I am most proud of RPing with my partner is a married couple. They’re comfortable with eachother, familiar. Outside of the bedroom. They’ve seen eachother at their best, at their worst, fought with eachother, comforted one another— they’re even raising a child together. Nothing can really surprise them.
So it’s entirely alright when some nights, my character can’t get it up or or finishes too quickly or isn’t in the mood or is too exhausted; falls asleep. That’s alright. Disappointing for the characters, maybe, but they can deal with it. There’s something about doing a sex scene /wrong/, something going wrong, that’s just right. Because it’s not that idealized “he got hard and they did it and they both got there 5 times” that’s obviously only there for the sake of the writers.
I guess it takes an RPer to want to do smut with you, but it takes a special king of RPer to want to do it right.
You know, they are. Because speaking from personal and second hand experience— It doesn’t all go perfectly.
Sadik and Ira have had failed nights. Half of them because there is a line that is not to be touched between dark fantasies and your actual lover that you care about. There is only a certain kind of rough they can have. Not to mention you sometimes just aren’t in the mood.